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2020.09.30 18:38 dukeofmuffinz I (M30) saw my ex (F24) for the first time since our breakup 5 months ago

So we broke up about 5 months ago now and don't talk. When we broke up I was living with her and had to move in with some friends so as not to be awkward. During this move I ended up leaving some items behind (clothes, TV, etc.). I finally texted her last week about getting my TV and such and she told me to come over Tuesday after work to get it.
I was nervous before I went over there, I mean this is someone I dated for 3 years and now we never talk. She was my best friend and I went from being in love to being heart broken instantly when it was over so I was nervous and unsure of what to say when I got there.
Driving to her apartment I told myself it would be a quick in and out with minimum conversation. You see, I was just recently starting to not think about her on a daily basis, I was starting to finally move on. When I walked in and saw her my heart sank again, she was just cooking in the kitchen like she use to do for us before I got home. It was as if for a second I was coming home from work to eat with her again as we use to do.
We chatted for about 10 mins or so and caught up a little bit, just about work and our friends so nothing about us. I packed up the stuff she gave me into my truck and went upstairs to say goodbye. I asked if we could hug one time and say goodbye and she agreed and as the hug ended I stumbled and said,
"see you around soon."
I caught myself at the end and said, "well probably not," and she replied with,
"we can talk about it sometime."
Now I can't stop thinking about her and I'm not sure how I feel. I thought I was just starting to move on and she is in my thoughts again. The words, we can talk about it sometime, ring in my head. I'm not sure if I should follow up with her, let her follow up with me or just let it die. Its obvious I still have feelings for her but am I ready to try again? Is she?
Has anyone else been in a situation like this before? Would you pursue this? When is a good time to follow up, what do you even say?
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2020.09.30 17:14 thoreauaway1212 Guy [26M] from dating app was talkative with me [24F] over text but really quiet in person on our date...why?

I recently matched with a guy from a dating app and we really hit it off over text. He would respond almost instantly, ask a lot of questions and it was honestly just a lot of fun to talk to him. We stayed up til 1 or 2 am texting one night (which is rare for me because dating app chats are usually kind of boring) and he was also quick to suggest a date, and then kept saying how he was looking forward to it.
However, when we met each other for the date, though he looked like his photos, when he started talking I remember just thinking, this can't be the same guy. His personality was more like a stereotypical shy engineer type and it seemed like he was having trouble speaking full sentences, his voice was quiet and sometimes he'd mumble or trail off. It even seemed like he had trouble looking straight at me, he'd glance while I was talking but then look away quickly. It almost seemed surprising when he brought up topics from our chat, because again, it seemed like he was a different person. I am quiet myself, but I was definitely carrying the conversation and I don't recall a time when I've met a guy for a date that talked less than me.
He also looked a bit uncomfortable like he just wanted to escape the situation, even though I was doing my best to be polite/ask questions/not make the date a disaster, so it made me feel like he might not be interested as well. He also seemed to have a social life from his pics on his profile so I found it hard to believe he could be socially awkward, and made me wonder if I was doing something wrong. I've been on several first dates from online before, and even when one/both of us is not interested afterwards I've always managed to have a pleasant time and a good conversation that flowed well enough, so this is kind of baffling. I'm also not stunningly attractive or anything, just normal girl cute/pretty so again this is not a common phenomenon on dates. Anyone else had this happen to them?
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2020.09.30 17:08 WorkingMeringue Dating Apps are Trash (My experience)

I am 38 years old and, not happy with a stable relationship and a peaceful life, I decided to destroy everything and break up with my girlfriend, rightly finding myself in discomfort. Some friends have had the "brilliant" idea of ​​suggesting me to subscribe to Tinder.
After long hesitations I did it and ... I took an infinite blow.
From here, I decided to subscribe to all these platforms to see how far in hell I could go. If Facebook seems uncomfortable to you, calculate that its downloads end up in these apps, creating a terrifying parallel ecosystem .
A universe populated by women who seek the love of their life and men who demand sex within five minutes. From these unapproachable positions an even greater discomfort arises revealed by photos of cocks sent out of nowhere with no apparent reason to women, who respond with total resentment towards the male gender. Throwing a normal person in all of this is like living in the verge of absolute panic.
I always filled out the profile completely, with normal photos, I wrote a nice presentation and always made approaches in chat trying to make people understand I'm "coming in peace". Well: I guess I've never been so mistreated, humiliated and mocked before in my life as using these platforms.
It's hard to understand if you've never tried them, but I immediately got free beating like “Hi, my name is Andrea: nice to meet you! "- receiving as a reply answers like:" AHAHAHAH where the fuck you want to go with that shitty goatee, cut it."OK.I won't go into it any more, also because this is the longest post I've ever written in 22 years of the internet, it's time to start: welcome to hell, I'll be your guide.

TINDER

Pushed by some friends I signed up for Tinder, the hottest dating app of the moment .The first person the app proposed me was my ex girlfriend.Like a destroyer in the teeth.Life can be truly infamous when it wants, let alone social media.How many chances were there that the first proposal was the person you've been desperate for four months?We could call it Karma , but I don't believe in it, in destiny and all these deterministic and self compensating theories of higher forces. We could say that even according to Tinder we were made for each other. Very romantic hypothesis. The truth is much simpler and that is #EverythingIsShit.I'll be honest: from the outside it's very funny.
As I looked at the screen thinking about how to put an end to my existence, I thought about how funny the scene was for an outsider. And I decided that I would write such a post.However, I wanted to give Tinder the possibility of reaching up to 10 proposals.Well.Out of the first ten proposals, one was her, two were the girlfriends of a couple of men I know in real life, and the third was a wife of a relative.Not bad come on. There is a though.They all claimed to be there to chat.And I want to believe it: it is no coincidence that every time I have a great desire for a fresh field salad I go to Mc Donald's to get one .I'm obviously sarcastic, in case you didn't understand.Quite shocked I decided to instantly thunder my profile and move on to something else."What a shitty review was that?".It's my experiential review, nothing more, nothing less.

BADOO

Badoo is the realm of absolute evil, in practice when FACEBOOK pulls the water it conveys its sewers into this sick ecosystem, steeped in hatred, resentment and annoyance towards others. Men are just looking for instant sex and send penis photos like there's no tomorrow, women complain about it (rightly) but for their part they introduce themselves as "I 'm here but don't write to me " (so why you joined a dating site?), "I hate everyone, males sucks”(so why are you looking for dating).
These kind of things generate great embarrassment, I guess they have their very good reasons for being in this situation but, perhaps, then they should not be on an app which basically serves for a first acquaintance aimed at an encounter rather than a debate on Aristotelian philosophy.
As if there was no end to the worst, I also found a cheerful 45-year-old woman who does not accept non-serious stories, from the top of her two marriages plus a failed cohabitation. Which makes her a guarantee of seriousness. For her part, however, she declares herself "very affectionate" and the six dependent children that the future arrears may have to manage testify to this.
If that's not a bargain, you can find it on Badoo.The situation I encountered is this: average age of 45 years, and widespread ostentatious hatred towards the male gender. I can't give you the reasons but I can tell you that 35% of users are caregivers from the East Europe, 35% are nurses (or there are many nurses in the world or all of them are on Badoo), the remaining 30% is a random miscellany of women of all ages from casual jobs, trans and prostitutes.
I'll be honest: if it hadn't been 20+ years that I have been around the web, and that I have had to deal with the worst trolls, I would not have been able to handle these situations with such ease and I would have faltered heavily.On a functional level, Badoo presents a block of a certain level: if after two messages a girl does not answer you, you cannot write to her anymore. As a result, people sign up, bombard the whole district with two messages, get no answers, unsubscribe, sign up with a new profile and start trawling again. Hence a certain anger on the part of the girls can be understood.Did you do it too? Yes.Interesting is that girls who the first time did not even shit on me, the second they answered me a lot. I don't know, maybe the air humidity changed in the meanwhile.
Anyway, being tired of being blasted at random by girls I hadn't done anything to, I unsubscribed to move on to the next round of hell.

HOOTT

Hoott is a very nice app where practically nothing happens.You sign up and the profile is instantly visited by a billion hot, clearly fake, girls triggering the hormone. You realize that without a subscription you can practically do nothing, you subscribe and find that no one responds.I made a subscription for a month and a total of three subscriptions, I was able to chat with only one girl who I think I can say with enough certainty was a bot since, exhausted by the nullity of the dialogues, to her question “what are you doing now? "I replied (to remove any doubt)" I shit like a dragon on the toilet " getting as a reply: "I'm in underwear on the bed, see you on the hangout if you want”.Ok.

BUMBLE

Bumble is an app that seems to be interesting, but at the same time I believe that outside the US very few people use it, and where I live nobody uses it but me. Or rather none.I have no data in hand, but the closest girls reported to me were always located at least 75 miles away from me and always foreigners (probably tourists).

HATER

I'm tired of writing and tried these months of testing.I conclude with HATER a dating app with an interesting philosophy: finding a soul mate based on the things you hate.Between saying what you like or what you don't like, on a programming level, it doesn't change a banana but let's say that on a philosophical level it is interesting.
Having said that, I used the app a little bite by replying to absurd questions from some random girls such as “do you like sloppy pants or not? ”, then I got bored and threw everything away because the survival principle advised me.I don't know if these are real users, if they aren't, I don't know anything.

Sum it up

I will not do absurd lectures imbued with do-gooders, exhortations not to use dating apps or anything like that.The facts I have explained to you, I did not need to make any artifacts to carry on the discussion because the situation was already quite extreme on its own.I do not exclude it is possible to find a soul mate, but I do not see more probabilities than in other contexts, indeed. The fact that the apps are for dating doesn't mean that people are more available for a relationship (in all respects): on Instagram and FaceBook I chat with many more people and at a much higher level of respect and culture.It was also an interesting experiment of his own but I'm really happy that it's finished, I signed up to these platforms sad, I came out torn apart, even if I had flashes of great fun (followed by pauses of cosmic darkness).
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2020.09.30 17:00 thoreauaway1212 Guy from dating app was talkative over text but really quiet in person on our date...why?

I recently matched with a guy from a dating app and we really hit it off over text. He would respond almost instantly, ask a lot of questions and it was honestly just a lot of fun to talk to him. We stayed up til 1 or 2 am texting one night (which is rare for me because dating app chats are usually kind of boring) and he was also quick to suggest a date, and then kept saying how he was looking forward to it.
However, when we met each other for the date, though he looked like his photos, when he started talking I remember just thinking, this can't be the same guy. His personality was more like a stereotypical shy engineer type and it seemed like he was having trouble speaking full sentences, his voice was quiet and sometimes he'd mumble or trail off. It even seemed like he had trouble looking straight at me, he'd glance while I was talking but then look away quickly. It almost seemed surprising when he brought up topics from our chat, because again, it seemed like he was a different person. I am quiet myself, but I was definitely carrying the conversation and I don't recall a time when I've met a guy for a date that talked less than me.
He also looked a bit uncomfortable like he just wanted to escape the situation, even though I was doing my best to be polite/ask questions/not make the date a disaster, so it made me feel like he might not be interested as well. He also seemed to have a social life from his pics on his profile so I found it hard to believe he could be socially awkward, and made me wonder if I was doing something wrong. I've been on several first dates from online before, and even when one/both of us is not interested afterwards I've always managed to have a pleasant time and a good conversation that flowed well enough, so this is kind of baffling. I'm also not stunningly attractive or anything, just normal girl cute/pretty so again this is not a common phenomenon on dates. Anyone else had this happen to them?
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2020.09.30 16:16 PlaceboJesus PSA: My little guide to not losing disputes for failed delivery.

Unless you pay (extra) for some special shipping, you cannot really expect fast delivery from Aliexpress. In extreme circumstances, you need to be prepared to wait up to 90 days. Think of it like this: Getting stuff from Aliexpress is cheaper because you don't get it instantly. It's probably cheaper than Amazon, who is probably cheaper than local stores. Faster costs more, and instant cost even more. It may not be fully accurate, but it's a philosophy to embrace, while practicing embracing patience.
Anyway, since Covid, Ali has been more accepting of delivery being slow. I believe they extended the maximum extendable period; I do not know if they returned it to normal yet. It's not just the shippers themselves, but your local postal service is probably slower now too, as is Customs. (I've seen items delayed by nearly a month because of Canadian Customs doing "standard" random checks.)
Failing to Prepare is Preparing to Fail:
The default period of Buyer Protection has never been long enough. A very good seller will extend the Buyer Protection period (once) on their own initiative, without any interaction. However, you will typically need to request an extension. Remember, they want their money. Confirming receipt gets the seller their money fastest. Allowing Buyer Protection to expire counts like a confirmation, but with a 15 days waiting period, so it is considered second fastest, and many Chinese sellers don't think in terms of good service for repeat business, particularly with foreigners or non-local shoppers (I've been to 5 Provinces in China, so I've experienced it first hand). For your part, be a good customer and Confirm your delivery as soon as possible. Being meticulous about this improves your rating as a buyer.
As I said earlier, you need to be prepared to wait out the maximum extendable period. The good news is that there is a hard limit. (I don't actually know what it is, maybe 90 days since Covid started?)
If Buyer Protection has been extended the maximum amount, or the seller has ignored your requests and messages to extend Buyer Protection, and you have not received your package... Ali will almost always solve a dispute in your favour. (I have never lost a dispute, and I have done many, all righteous.)
I always recommend that you watch to ensure that Buyer Protection does not run out.
For my method, you have to use the website, not the app. I don't know why the app doesn't sort the same, or why it doesn't have the request extension function. (Next time the app asks for a review, give them 4 stars and say it would be 5 if they'd fix that.)
Go to My Orders, click the column heading named Awaiting Delivery. At the bottom, it will show you how many pages of orders you have. Select the highest numbered page, e.g 5 of 5 and proceed to look at your orders oldest to newest.
From this view, it shows how much time for Buyer Protection remains.
Whenever you see anything with 7 days or less, click Details (I usually open it in a new tab because it's easier to switch back to view the dates involved). On the Details page, there is a link to request that they extend Buyer Protection. Request 30 days. They will typically comply very quickly, although they are sometimes slow to comply over weekends, especially long weekends. Assuming that you started with a 7 day deadline, if they do not comply use the request function again at 5 days before the deadline.
Follow this up by using the seller Chat/Contact/Message function to send a text message requesting the same. I have a couple preprepared copypasta messages, the first is brief and polite. The second politely explains that I have not received the item, but that I can be patient as long as they do not allow Buyer Protection to run out. If that happens, I must dispute.
If they still do not extend it, repeat this at 2 or 3 days before the deadline. For higher priced items, I try to make sure I do it at 3 days, and 1 day. (I don't know if it's necessary, but I've never failed to win my disputes, so why not? And it helps with how I phrase my dispute.)
Now, if they do not extend it, you can usually Dispute immediately, but that may be because of how the earlier parts went and how I phrase my disputes.
When Disputing: In the drop down lists, you select Logistics, and then the "Item did not arrive and buyer protection is expiring" options. Where it asks you to enter your own reason, I typically write: "Item not received. Seller ignored repeated requests and messages to extend Buyer Protection." Their failure to act or communicate works in your favour.
It may be annoying, but it's simple. You will have created a record that shows yourself to be reasonable and, in the case that they were not cooperative, makes the seller appear negligent, dishonest, or unprofessional.
On the other hand: If I truly believe the seller made their best efforts, I will deduct the shipping expense from the total of the requested refund amount. I don't know if this makes any difference, but the secret of success is the appearance of honesty and fair dealing. If you can fake those, you've got it made.
Also... Remember, from the date that Buyer Protection expires, you have 15 days to file your dispute. If the item is over $100 I will wait 7 days after that date, to appear even more reasonable. The more money that is involved, the more the seller will fight it, or beg Ali to take their side.
If you and the seller both allowed buyer protection to expire without an extension and you file a dispute immediately, Aliexpress may tell you that you filed too soon and request that you wait and file again later. Again, there was probably more money involved, and the seller cried/begged Ali to help them. And if you did not interact with the seller requesting Buyer Protection extensions, now the seller can appear reasonable and honest while you appear disorganised or unreasonable for expecting it to arrive so soon.
If they do tell you to wait, embrace patience. Simply set yourself a reminder for 10 days after the date Buyer Protection expired (not from the date of their communication). On that date, dispute again. My experience is that if you do wait this long, they will not force you to delay the dispute process again. If they do (never seen this), set your reminder and ensure you refile your dispute 30 hours before your deadline.
Also remember to check the tracking on items to see that they actually shipped and something didn't happen before it left the country of origin. (Once it gets to Canada I usually can't get any info anyway, unless someone paid for tracking.) If you see a problem with the shipping, communicate with the seller. Typically they won't resend it and the Cancel option is gone, so I have to dispute. And I refuse to pay a cancellation fee when it's not my fault. The seller's communications are typically enough to have the dispute land on your side. So be polite with the sellers, and where you type your own reason, just ask Ali to look at the message history.
Good luck.
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2020.09.30 15:20 nomorehome TRIP REPORT: The Escarpment Trail - The Catskills, NY

Hello, /Ultralight - I'm a longtime lurker on this sub (thanks for the tips, guys) and reading other people's trip reports was a big help planning this hike. So, I figured I'd contribute one of my own! It's always fun living vicariously through other people's adventures, too. Feel free to comment with any questions about this hike / logistics / gear / etc. Also down to recommend parts of this for shorter hikes too. Here goes:
Dates: 9/25–9/27 2020
Weather: Perfect! No rain, Approx 72º/50º. Sunny days 1 & 2, overcast day 3.
Lighterpack: https://lighterpack.com/kzftct
Map: https://www.alltrails.com/explore/map/escarpment-trail-hwy-23-to-north-south-lake-30da227
Distance: Conflicting internet info, but my Alltrails map came in at 22.2 miles and 5545 ft of elevation gain (before water runs and other diversions).
Challenges: Rocky terrain with brutal elevation changes, lack of water sources.
Hikers: nomorehome 39/F, the obsessive hike planner. Loves scenic vistas, maps, and suffering. Passionfruit, 33/F, the enthusiastic partner. Loves mushrooms, cute moss, and pine forests that remind her of Oregon.
Pictures: https://imgur.com/a/ZNryfAe Imgur sucks and totally put these out of order... help?
About the Escarpment Trail: This trail runs from the Rte 23 trailhead/parking lot in Windham to Kaaterskill Falls, crossing 7 3000+ ft peaks along the way, including two Catskill 35ers: Blackhead (3940ft) and Windham High Peak (3524ft). You can clearly hike it in the opposite direction, too, but I’m pretty sure we picked the right way. Many scenic views of the Hudson Valley (to the East) and the Catskill Mountains (to the West) are to be had along the way, making all the hard work worth it. Maybe.
I hatched the plan to hike the whole thing in a long weekend in earnest about a month ago, wanting to time it for good weather and plenty of fall foliage. Though if I’m being honest, it had been on my mind for quite some time – we have a few friends who live close to this trail, making the logistics easy and the terrain semi- familiar from various day hikes over the years. Somehow I convinced Passionfruit this was a good idea. She still thinks it was, but there were moments on trail where neither of us was entirely sure.
DAY 0 (Thursday): We finish work and head up from Brooklyn to our friend’s place, say hello, pet the dog, and crash immediately. Big day tomorrow!
DAY 1 (Friday, 8.5 miles): We’re up around 7:00 to eat breakfast and do some last minute geafood futzing. Our friend follows us as we drop our car at the Laurel House Rd parking lot, and shuttles us back up to Rte 23 in Windham. We wave goodbye and sign the trail register as Windham High Peak (WHP, 3524ft) looms above us. It’s about 11:15 and we’re on the move!
The trek up to WHP is a popular day hike, and we encounter many other hikers along the way. The first two miles aren’t too difficult, so we’re feeling confident and warmed up, though a little sleep deprived and weighted down by a big (3L each) water carry. The third mile is where the rock scrambles start, and by the time we reach the top we’re VERY ready for a break. There’s a spot with a great view of the Blackhead range, so we plop down and eat our sandwiches and apples, the last time we’ll have normal person food for a while. We find a perfect hiking stick which we name the Wizard Staff, and we vow to bring him all the way to Kaaterskill Falls.
The moment we pass the marker for the top of WHP we stop seeing as many people, and the trail becomes more remote and much less worn in. I disturb a small snake's sunbathing session. We feel like the hike has finally really begun! We catch our first views of the beautiful Hudson Valley side of the ridge and are thankful for the solitude and for a bit of downhill and flatter trail - the 3.5 mile grind up WHP was long and hard with full packs. Before we know it, the trail rises again, crossing Burnt Knob and Acra Point, with a bit of a dip between. Somewhere after Acra Point we’re tired, hungry, running out of water, and we cross over into the Type 2 Fun zone, but we have to keep pushing if we want to make camp before dark. The last two hours are a bit of a blur.
We finally roll into the Batavia Kill shelter area around 6:20pm and immediately celebrate with some bourbon, and our spirits are high again. There’s one other camper, a guy who passed us not long ago and is seemingly doing the same trail solo. (Hello if you’re reading this, random guy!) We get the tent set up, grab water, and make some mac and cheese, which is about the best thing either of us have ever tasted. Passionfruit passes out while I take a minute to sit in the clearing around the shelter looking up at a sky full of stars.
DAY 2 (Saturday, 7.5 miles +.8 mile water run): I get up at 7:00 and make horrible instant coffee, which rouses Passionfruit. We pack up quickly, gather about 2L of water each to make it to the next source in 4.5 miles, eat a few handfuls of trail mix, and we’re off. Our first challenge today is climbing up Blackhead (3940 ft), which is +1000ft over .9 miles. It is a really hard yet fun rock scramble - we agree this was both the hardest part of the trail and our favorite. We’re passed by several day hikers who do NOT envy our full packs. That mile took like an hour and a half!
Just after the peak itself, we make it to the best panoramic viewpoint of the whole trail. It’s a perfect day and the whole valley is filled with clouds – it feels almost like being on a plane. We hang out for at least an hour and make breakfast on the rock, taking time to relax and chat with other hikers who periodically pass by.
The descent on the southeast side of Blackhead has plenty of scrambling, but nothing compared to the way up. Eventually we reach the beautiful open flat terrain of Arizona Mountain, and we look back up at Blackhead towering behind us, feeling pretty good about our day so far. The final lookout before the descent to Dutcher’s Notch is stunning, with a view of two lakes - Capra and Colgate. There are some tents set up a little ways off trail right on the ridge, and I make a mental note for future trips. By the time we make it to the notch, our water is just about gone. We drop our packs and scurry down .4 miles to the spring on the east side, which thankfully is running with cold delicious water. We get 3L each for camp and the next 6 or so miles.
The climb up to Stoppel Point is a slog with all that water, and we have a repeat of yesterday’s Fun Wall at around 6.5 miles. I yell out in both triumph and frustration as we reach the top, and start laughing like some kind of maniac. We pass a plane crash (still there from the 80s) and agree this part of the trail feels “ghosty”. The trail thankfully flattens and turns to stunning pines that remind us of Oregon, where Passionfruit is from. We’re calling these sections “reward trail.” The late-day light is perfect. Around 5pm we bump into a father and daughter at a viewpoint who are planning on making it to Batavia Kill over Blackhead that night - i show them some other possible camp spots on my map, fearing they might be underestimating the trail.
Our last hour is fairly moderate and we’re thankful when we reach the clearing on North Mountain around 6pm. Just prior to this, there’s a bushwhack to a hidden campsite that we find with some difficulty, but it’s occupied by our friend the random guy from our last camp (Hi!). He offers for us to join him but we figure we’ll be able to find another spot, so we leave him to his magic ridge view. We head back to the clearing and wander around until we spot some nice flat areas and a fire ring just behind it - a perfect campsite! We get set up just before dark, and enjoy a Knorr side, fritos, and the last of the whiskey back out at the clearing. We head back to camp, make a mini fire and have some tea before bedtime. The wind has started to pick up to a howl, and we’re honestly pretty psyched to be nestled between a bunch of pine trees rather than out on the ridge. We sleep like rocks.
DAY 3 (Sunday, 7ish miles): The home stretch! We’re low on water so we split a cup of tea and eat the rest of our crackers, salami, and cheese and head out. Our packs are light and feel like nothing now! Just after our camp we hit North Point, a wide open rocky area with stunning views of the mountain ridges and North/South lake. It is overcast today, and clouds/fog are nestled into the mountains. The leaves have seemingly gone full Pumpkin Spice over the past two days.
The trail is much easier from here on, with only intermittent fun rock scrambles instead of miles of them at a time, and many views. There are lots of beautiful pine forest sections and open areas. We’re suddenly seeing tons of people again, as this is one of the most popular day hike spots in the area. It’s still a shock to the system when we emerge at North/South lake campground and are totally back in civilization. We grab some water and make coffee and breakfast at a picnic table, and wait for our friends and their dog Sid, who will hike the last few miles with us.
When they arrive, we drop our gear in the car and head out towards Kaaterskill, taking in more views, snapping pictures, and enjoying our victory lap. Sid is thrilled to bound up the rocks and play with other hikers dogs, and between our friends and Good Boy Dog Vibes we find our 45th wind. Before we know it we’re at the falls, which is overrun with people as usual, where we hang out for a bit. We head towards the car, thinking only of the showers, cold beers, and giant plates of food that await us. Passionfruit still has the Wizard Staff – we couldn’t just leave him :)
In Conclusion: This hike was amazing! We loved it SO MUCH and we are never, EVER doing it again. We’re pretty experienced backpackers and it definitely kicked our asses, mostly because of the Water Situation - having to haul lots of it up steep scrambles, and needing to make the miles no matter what. Planning it out, I thought: 8ish miles a day, no problem! But these are Catskills Miles, a whole different breed. Though, like any hike, I kind of already forget the hard parts and just remember how great it was, so you never know. Already planning on hitting all the 35ers on the Blackhead range, so.
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2020.09.30 06:10 Successful_Fill_6609 I’m in love with my coworker. What do I do?

Posted this in relationship_advice but I figured ya’ll might have some good advice too.
This will probably be lengthy, so apologies in advance.
I (23F) began working at my current job a little more than a year ago with a group of people who started at the same time as me. Given the nature of our work, we spend a lot of time together so we are all fairly close and I would consider myself friends with most of my coworkers. I point this out because I find our situation unique in terms of how offices usually operate and possibly the reason why the situation has escalated to the point that it has.
One of the people I started with is Henry (23M). Most of the people I work with are insanely attractive (I don’t know how or why), so it wasn’t weird that I was instantly attracted to him the second I laid eyes on him. We ended up as cubicle-mates and had great banter from day one. He was definitely very shy and reserved, but also an incredibly tenacious person who was sweet and funny. We began working together on a lot of projects and he would always ask my help or advice for the tiniest things. We played stupid games together and would get each other’s attentions by throwing things at one another. Even though I was mad for him the moment I met him, and even though we had great chemistry, neither of us made a move and nothing happened. We never progressed past the “work spouse” stage despite flirting with each other incessantly all day. Here’s where I made my biggest mistake.
After many months of pining after Henry, I was beginning to feel as though it was never going to happen which was surprisingly upsetting to me. But without the gumption to just come right out and tell him I liked him and with the fear of rejection very prominent in my mind, I sought comfort elsewhere... into the arms of another coworker, Kevin. It wasn’t intentional and it was definitely a bad idea, but it happened nonetheless. After a few weeks of me hooking up with Kevin, the whole office knew and my dreams of living happily ever after with Henry (yes, still) are completely dashed. I attempt to settle in to my new normal with Kevin, but it’s a terrible fit. We have very different interests, come from very different backgrounds, and worst of all - we are completely sexually incompatible. Despite this, Kevin and I persist for 5 months and have become an installment in the office.
After news leaked about Kevin and I, Henry and I are still chatting with each other every day about work related matters but the interactions definitely acquire a more professional air. He’s not cold or short with me by any means, but it felt like I lost my buddy for a few months before Henry’s flirtatious nature returned with a vengeance and I frequently found myself blushing around him once again. He begins greeting me again every morning, offering to help me with anything, gets achingly close to me while preparing coffee in the kitchen but never close enough. And then, he asked me for relationship advice about a woman he had been apparently seeing for several months. Yes, I was crushed. Nevertheless, he mentioned how he wanted to break things off with her but didn’t know how to go about it and leaned toward ghosting her. I told him that was shitty and that if he didn’t want to see her anymore he should just have that conversation. Cut to a few days later, all he follows up with is “Trying to ghost her was a bad idea, she’s really upset with me now.”
COVID-19 has entered the chat.
We enter quarantine while I’m still entangled with Mr. Kevin, who I am resenting more each and every day. I finally call it quits early into quarantine for a variety of reasons, not least of all being my unrelenting feelings for Henry despite having no indication if they are or ever have been reciprocated. Henry and I still work very closely together and chat every day, often video-chatting and screensharing spontaneously just to explain a point better. Our relationship strengthens during COVID and my feelings for him grow to a really unmanageable point. He messages me all the time to ask me for my opinion on an email he received, or to proofread something he wrote, or to clarify something he easily could have looked up himself. I’ve tried very hard to convey my feelings without actually stating the words HEY DUMMY I’M INTO YOU but I am consistently warded off with a “haha, thanks” whenever I attempt a compliment.
He is everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner. He is so funny and has the most magnetic personality. He is driven and smart and unbelievably humble. He is constantly reassuring me that I’m doing a good job, that I deserve all of the praise I’m given, and that he owes much of his success in our company thus far to me. As I mentioned before, he is very shy due to a pretty bad case of social anxiety where he genuinely fears that most people don’t like him for small errors he has made. I can’t tell you how many times he’s apologized for “annoying” me when he’s done nothing even close to that. Because of that, he’s very gentle and just not a forward person in the slightest. He’s also very respectful of me as one of the only women in our office and has frequently called out other teammates of ours for being shitty to me.
After writing this all down and reading it back, this all seems very mundane. I wouldn’t have posted this in the absence of complete desperation. I think about Henry constantly and ways I could profess my feelings for him. Sometimes it feels like I just wait all day to get a message from him, and the fact that I don’t know how I make him feel is eating away at me to the point where I am literally losing sleep. What do I do?
Also, before anyone says anything - dating coworkers is not ideal and not something I would normally go for as I think it’s a terrible idea. That being said, I’M IN LOVE WITH HIM!!!
TL;DR: After over a year of flirting, my feelings for my coworker have come to an overwhelming point and I need help deciding what to do about them.
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2020.09.30 05:59 Successful_Fill_6609 I’m in love with my coworker. What do I do?

This will probably be lengthy, so apologies in advance.
I (23F) began working at my current job a little more than a year ago with a group of people who started at the same time as me. Given the nature of our work, we spend a lot of time together so we are all fairly close and I would consider myself friends with most of my coworkers. I point this out because I find our situation unique in terms of how offices usually operate and possibly the reason why the situation has escalated to the point that it has.
One of the people I started with is Henry (23M). Most of the people I work with are insanely attractive (I don’t know how or why), so it wasn’t weird that I was instantly attracted to him the second I laid eyes on him. We ended up as cubicle-mates and had great banter from day one. He was definitely very shy and reserved, but also an incredibly tenacious person who was sweet and funny. We began working together on a lot of projects and he would always ask my help or advice for the tiniest things. We played stupid games together and would get each other’s attentions by throwing things at one another. Even though I was mad for him the moment I met him, and even though we had great chemistry, neither of us made a move and nothing happened. We never progressed past the “work spouse” stage despite flirting with each other incessantly all day. Here’s where I made my biggest mistake.
After many months of pining after Henry, I was beginning to feel as though it was never going to happen which was surprisingly upsetting to me. But without the gumption to just come right out and tell him I liked him and with the fear of rejection very prominent in my mind, I sought comfort elsewhere... into the arms of another coworker, Kevin. It wasn’t intentional and it was definitely a bad idea, but it happened nonetheless. After a few weeks of me hooking up with Kevin, the whole office knew and my dreams of living happily ever after with Henry (yes, still) are completely dashed. I attempt to settle in to my new normal with Kevin, but it’s a terrible fit. We have very different interests, come from very different backgrounds, and worst of all - we are completely sexually incompatible. Despite this, Kevin and I persist for 5 months and have become an installment in the office.
After news leaked about Kevin and I, Henry and I are still chatting with each other every day about work related matters but the interactions definitely acquire a more professional air. He’s not cold or short with me by any means, but it felt like I lost my buddy for a few months before Henry’s flirtatious nature returned with a vengeance and I frequently found myself blushing around him once again. He begins greeting me again every morning, offering to help me with anything, gets achingly close to me while preparing coffee in the kitchen but never close enough. And then, he asked me for relationship advice about a woman he had been apparently seeing for several months. Yes, I was crushed. Nevertheless, he mentioned how he wanted to break things off with her but didn’t know how to go about it and leaned toward ghosting her. I told him that was shitty and that if he didn’t want to see her anymore he should just have that conversation. Cut to a few days later, all he follows up with is “Trying to ghost her was a bad idea, she’s really upset with me now.”
COVID-19 has entered the chat.
We enter quarantine while I’m still entangled with Mr. Kevin, who I am resenting more each and every day. I finally call it quits early into quarantine for a variety of reasons, not least of all being my unrelenting feelings for Henry despite having no indication if they are or ever have been reciprocated. Henry and I still work very closely together and chat every day, often video-chatting and screensharing spontaneously just to explain a point better. Our relationship strengthens during COVID and my feelings for him grow to a really unmanageable point. He messages me all the time to ask me for my opinion on an email he received, or to proofread something he wrote, or to clarify something he easily could have looked up himself. I’ve tried very hard to convey my feelings without actually stating the words HEY DUMMY I’M INTO YOU but I am consistently warded off with a “haha, thanks” whenever I attempt a compliment.
He is everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner. He is so funny and has the most magnetic personality. He is driven and smart and unbelievably humble. He is constantly reassuring me that I’m doing a good job, that I deserve all of the praise I’m given, and that he owes much of his success in our company thus far to me. As I mentioned before, he is very shy due to a pretty bad case of social anxiety where he genuinely fears that most people don’t like him for small errors he has made. I can’t tell you how many times he’s apologized for “annoying” me when he’s done nothing even close to that. Because of that, he’s very gentle and just not a forward person in the slightest. He’s also very respectful of me as one of the only women in our office and has frequently called out other teammates of ours for being shitty to me.
After writing this all down and reading it back, this all seems very mundane. I wouldn’t have posted this in the absence of complete desperation. I think about Henry constantly and ways I could profess my feelings for him. Sometimes it feels like I just wait all day to get a message from him, and the fact that I don’t know how I make him feel is eating away at me to the point where I am literally losing sleep. What do I do?
Also, before anyone says anything - dating coworkers is not ideal and not something I would normally go for as I think it’s a terrible idea. That being said, I’M IN LOVE WITH HIM!!!
TL;DR: After over a year of flirting, my feelings for my coworker have come to an overwhelming point and I need help deciding what to do about them.
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2020.09.30 05:31 Here_to_work 32 [M4F] Looking to release some stress - QC

I'm a 32 white American staying in QC for the time being, Covid has limited any interactions I can have for some time and I'm going stir crazy for human interaction. More specifically something flirtatious or sexual.
Right now, I'd only like to speak online (reddit chat, messages, TG for call/video stuff) if we vibe, maybe somewhere down the road we can meet up offline for a date, and see where it might take us.
About me: 32 years old, working doing security consult work for a company that outsources to BPOs in the area. Kinda dad bod, enjoy cooking, and binge watching shows and movies (Currently watching The Boys season 2, and Re zero season 2)
About you: understands that I may not be able to reply instantly given work constraints (I'll try to make time for any conversation though, but it may not be instant responses.) Knows what you want, and is open to speaking your mind.
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2020.09.30 02:56 PuzzleheadedRun2776 How to successfully reach out to somebody I went on a few dates with earlier this year.

Background:
I went on 3 dates with a woman back at the end of January / beginning on February. I was extremely smitten with her. She decided after the third date that she did not want to continue dating at that time, however we did have a lengthy discussion which I left with the feeling that there was a chance in the future.
I dated a few women before everything shut down. Initially during the shut down I wanted to reach out to this woman to try to rekindle something, and I think the only reason I didn't was because I read that everybody else was doing it. I then met my ex whom I dated for about 3 months.
Ever since I finished processing my breakup from my ex I have been thinking about this woman a lot. I always figured that I would reach out to her sometime this winter, maybe around the anniversary of when we went on our dates, however I saw her profile come up on Hinge today. I am taking this as a sign that now is the time to reach out to her while the iron is hot and I know she is still on dating apps.
I know some people will tell me this is a bad idea, however I rarely meet anybody who I feel an instant connection with like I did with her. I will have more regret for not trying than I will if I try and fail.
So the question is, how do I go about doing this in order to give myself the best chance?
Since I still have her phone number in my phone I should text her rather than message her on Hinge, correct?
Should I try to engage in idle chit chat (i.e. how's your life going? I hope you and your family are doing well during this pandemic) or is this disingenuous if my goal is to eventually ask her to start dating again? Would any woman know that if I am reaching out this it is eventually going to come to that, so if she responds she is probably open to it?
Should I say in my first message "I want for us to try dating again" or is this too straightforward? Should I bring up that I saw her on Hinge?
Edit: I thank everybody who has responded. It has given me a lot to think about. I am glad I decided to pose this question to this group instead of just messaging her tonight like my original plan was.
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2020.09.30 00:12 throwratowel I've been sexually inappropriate with friends of mine and I don't know what the right thing to do is now (very long)

This died in relationship_advice so I thought I'd try somewhere more general.
TLDR: Years ago I had alcohol/substance issues (not an excuse but relevant. I'm now sober) and ended up being sexually inappropriate with 3+ friends of mine over the course of years. The full extent of the problem wasn't clear to me until relatively recently and I'm not sure if/how I can help the people I've hurt. It's a little complicated so if you've got the time, please read the full thing. All names changed.
Between 2012 and 2017 (my age 24-29) I was engaged in a pattern of behaviour which resulted in me being sexually inappropriate with a number of female friends of mine. To the best of my knowledge that number is 3, however I’m told that it could be higher. Each of the three incidents that I’m aware of only became known to me after the fact, as I was unconscious and highly intoxicated for each of them. In all three cases that I know about (with some minor variations), I was asleep and intoxicated in the same bed as a friend of mine, and in my sleep, I touched her inappropriately. I am aware of how the 'I was asleep' excuse sounds. It is, however, the truth.
In my biggest friend group, parties with lots of drugs and drink were (and somewhat remain) the norm. It's also been somewhat normalised that as parties wind down, sleeping arrangements can get a little hodge-podge. Here is as detailed an account of each incident as I can manage:
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Incident 1 (2012): It’s early morning, and I’m done at the party. I’ve had an awful lot to drink, and most likely some molly, possibly some other stuff. I know my girlfriend Emma is in one of the beds upstairs so I go looking for her. I find her in a bed having crashed with David and Lucy (a couple). I take a look at the already cramped situation and rather than look for some place else, I decide to just squeeze in on the end, next to Emma, and fall asleep. I wake up spooning someone. As I come to, I realise I’m not spooning Emma, but Lucy. I mutter ‘wrong person’ (or maybe just think it, I’m not sure), and look around to see Emma has presumably got too hot and bothered in the bed and moved to the floor. I go to join her, cringing at myself for spooning the wrong person.
That is my full memory, nothing more, nothing less, of incident 1. For years this was filed in my brain under ‘throwratowel cringe 2012’. It remained completely dormant (completely dead, in my mind) and David, Lucy and I were all totally cordial right up until 2018. More on this later.
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Incident 2 (~2014): This one’s actually with a different friend group, but with a similar dynamic. By now, I’ve split with Emma, but I’m still good friends with her and everyone else in the main group. Me and my friends from college, Paul and Rachel, are hanging out at Rachel’s place. We get drunk, and all fall asleep in the same room. Paul in one bed, me and Rachel in hers. In the night I wake up to Rachel trying to kiss me. That's not what I want, so I ask her to stop, she does, and we fall back to sleep. The next day, we’re at college, and Rachel is being very sheepish and avoidant around me. I assume she’s just remembering the fact that she tried to kiss me. I’m not one to try to embarrass anyone though, so I tried to put her at ease by just being normal around her, making regular jokes etc. I get a text from her later telling me we need to talk. We talk on the phone that evening, and she asks me if I remember last night. I say yeah, but it’s ok, don’t worry about it. She says she thinks maybe I don’t remember everything. She tells me that in the middle of the night she woke up and my hand was down the front of her underwear. Hearing this, I feel like I’ve been hit over the head. I have literally zero recollection of this happening. I instantly believe it, however, because of how Emma and I used to sleep together. We’d been together for 2 ½ years, and I had only recently broken up with her, and the way we used to sleep together was spooning, with my hand either on her breast or on her privates. It was non-sexual, non-invasive, and completely normalised between us. I don’t know how it started but it just became one of those comfort habits you develop as a couple. As in, if my hand was not there, she’d put it there, and that’s how we slept. So the idea that my hand ended up there when I was asleep next to Rachel, while beyond horrifying to me, was completely believable. I was instantly apologetic, and did my best to explain to her that there’s no way I’d ever have done that intentionally, and that I couldn’t be more sorry about it. She was very understanding and forgave me. Some time later we actually ended up dating, split up, and were friends for a good few years. Only recently have we fallen out of contact. That’s incident 2.
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Incident 3 (2017):
Same friend group as in incident 1. Around this time, most of those guys had moved to a different city, and I’d been gradually seeing far less of them in person. This incident takes place during a local festival in my city / their old city. We’d been out for a rager with lots of drink and drugs, and we eventually went back to Donna’s place for the afterparty. More drink and drugs. Again, there’s limited bedspace and it gets decided that I’ll be sleeping in the same bed as Claire. Claire goes to bed, and at some point I go to join. I remember sleeping kind of fitfully. Some days later a memory pops into my head of having a weird, possibly semi-sexual encounter with someone recently, but the memory is so hazy that it feels more like the recollection of a dream than of something that actually happened, so I forget about it. It does not even occur to me that I could have done something untoward with Claire. This is my full memory of the night of incident 3. More on this shortly.
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In other news, in September 2017, for unrelated reasons, I decided to get sober. I kicked booze completely, and am still dry today. As for drugs, I’ve had molly once since then (xmas ‘17). I’ve also smoked weed a few times (always either by myself or just with my current gf Fiona, and have even kicked that as of earlier this year) and have taken psychedelics a couple of times too (again, either alone or just with my gf). I plan on maybe continuing to take psychedelics for the purpose of dealing with depression and anxiety; rarely if ever in ‘macro’ doses, and never at parties. The strongest I’ll have at a party now is peppermint tea, and it’s been that way since xmas ‘17. I mention this because I feel like my relationship with substances is totally relevant here. These incidents aren’t why I got sober, but they are a massive factor in why I stay sober.
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Spring 2018. Everyone’s planning a trip to a theme park. One day however, I notice that David (Lucy’s bf from incident 1) has removed me from the group chat and unfriended me on fb. That’s weird, I think, so I drop him a message asking what gives. He doesn’t respond, but re-adds me on messenger (but not fb), and re-adds me to the group chat. I’m scratching my head as to what’s happened, and having not received a reply from him, I figure I’ll message Lucy to ask what’s up with him. No response. At this point I’m starting to get really concerned, so I message our friend Sam. He says that he noticed David removing me from the group and, also thinking it was weird, had privately asked David about it but David said to just forget it, and had even got quite abrupt with Sam. So Sam and I put some thought into what I could have done to piss David off. I wrack my brains but come up blank. Some days pass. I get a call from Sam. He says that I really need to think about what I might have done, because it’s looking like it’s serious. Knowing David better than I do, Sam suggests that maybe I shouldn’t be focusing on David but on Lucy. He asks me if there’s anything I’ve done, maybe even from a long time ago, that might have upset Lucy. The memory of incident 1 does enter my mind, but my first response there is to think ‘nah, no way is he mad at me about some goof with his girlfriend from 6 years ago’, so I don’t say anything about it right away. (Plus, at this point I’m really hoping that it’s not that because it’ll embarrass me to talk about it. Bear in mind, I haven’t yet begun to think of that incident as anything more than a clumsy, hungover blunder). After some more talk and a real struggle to think of anything that could even remotely have upset Lucy, I eventually tell Sam that well, ok, so there was this one time in 2012, but surely that can’t be it. We both hmm about it and don’t necessarily feel like we’re any closer to the heart of the issue yet.
A couple of months later, maybe a week or so after we’ve all been on a trip to Amsterdam, and I’m talking with Sam in a bar. We get onto the subject of Lucy and David and he drops a bombshell on me. He’s found out that yes, it is the time from 2012 that’s the problem, but that’s not the only problem. It turns out that in Summer ‘17, I had done something with Claire while we were asleep in the same bed. Apparently that night I had touched her and essentially dry-humped her until she had to shove me off and tell me to get lost. A horrific sinking feeling, and no memory of it having happened. In that moment a piece fell into place for me; what if what had happened with Rachel had also happened with Lucy? I had been living my whole life with incidents 1 & 2 filed in completely different places in my mind, but now that it turned out that incident 1 was in fact a big problem, I began to see it differently. Rather than just me spooning Lucy, what if I’d done something even worse in my sleep and touched her like I’d done with Rachel?
It’s easy to make sense of the timing of Lucy and David’s actions here. After the first incident in 2012, it seems Lucy decided to just ‘let it go’. (As I’ve said, we’d been at several parties and been totally cool around each other right up to 2018.) When she found out (before I did) about the incident with Claire, however, Lucy re-evaluated her experience, probably even thinking of my actions as predatory, and so decided at that point to take small action by unfriending and blocking me. Meanwhile I was trying to get a response from David about what was up (I’d sent a total of about 5 messages privately to the both of them over the space of a few weeks after the group chat incident). I eventually got worried that I was pestering David (I wasn’t blocked on his whatsapp) and had said to him that if he didn’t want anything more to be said on the matter that he should just not respond. I got left on read, and so took the message as clear; leave Lucy and David alone.
Back to Claire, who I apologised profusely to. If anything she expressed more concern for me than anything else, and she accepted my apology and forgave me. We’ve always been good and we still are today.
Every few months now I’ll drop David a message. Over 2 years I think I’ve sent 4 messages to him, always taking a gentle approach and trying to make it clear that I only want to do the right thing. I’d message Lucy directly but I don’t have a contact for her. Plus I don't know how bad the incident with her was, or if it's triggering for her. In my messages to David, I’ve said that I know what the problem is, and that I don’t want to convince them of anything, I just want to listen to how Lucy feels. I’ve said that I’m sorry, and that I’m not going to do or say anything that either of them are uncomfortable with. I’ve tried to make it clear that the ball is in their court, and that I am there to talk under whatever circumstances they’re most comfortable with.
Ok so that’s the 3 ‘known’ incidents pretty much covered, but you’ll remember at the beginning of the post I mentioned that that number could be higher. So Sam, who is very close with David, occasionally brings this subject up with him, only to be quickly shut down. David is very protective of Lucy, and has been tight-lipped with Sam on this subject. But a couple of months ago he did mention something which heavily implies that there is another person I have been inappropriate with. So I went down my fb friends list and came up with 3 names that I might have slept in the same bed as over the years. I contacted them all individually and asked them (without breaching anyone else's privacy) if I’d ever been inappropriate with them, and they all said no, and were surprised that I’d have to ask that question. At this moment I’m at square one as to who this potential 4th person is, and I’m not sure where to go from here. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts and advice on how to approach this.
I should say that throughout this, Sam has been an incredible friend to me, and I really feel for his situation, because his friendship with me is beginning to cause strain on his friendship with David. At no point have I asked him to do any asking around, he just sees the difficulty of the situation and wants what’s best for the group. Recently, however, him and David have had some conflict over this situation, with David expressing anger at Sam that he could still be friends with me. What’s more, yesterday, Sam told me that recently David had said that nothing I say can be trusted, and that I am a liar. That's incredibly hard to hear. We were walking as Sam told me this and I had to stop in my tracks to take a moment. I'm honestly devastated that a friend of mine could think that about me. Not just because I know it’s not true (I have no idea what it is I’m meant to have lied about), but also because I genuinely care about Lucy and David, and just want to help. I do understand though. I don’t want to come across as oblivious to why David would feel negatively towards me. Of course he does. But to hear that it’s to quite that degree hurts deeply. I figured the reason I hadn't been contacted was that they just didn't want to, or maybe because it was difficult for Lucy, not that they thought I was a liar and not to be trusted. My ability to deal with all this has taken a big hit since hearing that.
Mine and Sam’s conversation yesterday ended with me pretty much breaking down on him, because the idea of him losing his friendship with David because of me isn’t something I think I’d be able to deal with, so I told him that he shouldn’t feel like he needs to speak up for me with David.
What can I do? I’ve spoken with Claire (she knows about what happened with Lucy), and she says I need to find a way to just move on from it. That's going to be hard, though. For one thing, all this occupies so much of my thoughts every day that I've no idea how I can go about 'moving on'. I feel like if there's one person who can help this situation for Lucy, it's me.
But I do think that I should just not message David any more. I feel like he's now viewing all my actions as the actions of some kind of manipulator, and so there wouldn't be anything I can say to him that would help. But if he’s saying I can’t be trusted to Sam then maybe he’s saying it to other friends of mine? I can’t just strike this conversation up with just anyone however, because I'm not going to breach anyone's privacy.
Another thing I want to be totally clear on is that I am not looking for, nor have I ever asked anyone for forgiveness. I have nothing that I want to convince anyone of. Most of all I just want to hear Lucy’s side of things and to do what’s right by the people I care most about. Despite having made some mistakes, I am ultimately just someone who wants to help and can't bear the idea that I've hurt anyone, particularly my friends, all of whom I love to bits. I’d really appreciate any insights or advice you might have on what the right way to proceed is here. I've tried to make this as easy to follow as possible but if you need me to clarify any timeline details just ask. Thanks again.
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2020.09.29 21:50 Virtual-Dot1337 SO's Nmother is sabotaging our fresh relationship and I'm struggling to stay together. (long)

This long, hopefully entertaining story will contain mentions of depression, a crazy aunt, and a 19yo being kicked around at his mother's whim. I will separate the remarkable events for ease of reading. Sorry for the lack of capitalization - most of this was originally written a while ago, and that is a style I use more often. Oh, and SO is fine with me posting this story. Throwaway because I use my original reddit username everywhere else.
For context, I am 21F and my boyfriend is 19M. I have a lot of romantic experience, whereas this is his first relationship. We have been together for almost half a year. The relationship is generally great, we are a good match and it has 'forever potential'. We've known each other for over a year and a half and got together slowly and carefully during early quarantine, knowing the issues each of us came with. Well, we couldn't have predicted the issues listed below. Things have reached a point of make or break quite a few times because of them, even more often than due to my huge trust issues or anything else. Since stuff is already on ice and being given a lot of thought, do not feel obligated to give me advice - this is more of an 'entertainment rant', I guess.
-- event 1 - generally pretty cray cray
first, his mother was so scared of the virus (nobody in their family is at risk) that she legit thought they were going to get infected if they walk to their car and back with masks on, disinfecting and staying away from anyone. that's ok, some people see it that way, and i'm not gonna impose that he do something that technically affects his family too if they're not ok with it. so, it was pretty difficult seeing him at first because she'd think they were gonna die if someone drove him to my place fully protected then drove back home. again, that's fine - just have to wait for the pandemic to be over (lol little did i know), and then the hardship's through, right? at least as long i don't mention that my mom keeps the coffee filter stored during the weekdays, so his mom can then have a 'revelation' 3 days later that me saying that means i lied to them that my mom now works from home and throw a fit that i'm 'unsafe'? while i had barely seen daylight in a month.. yeah, she has the tendency to sit at home and unwrap random conversations, drawing random conclusions that normally paint her the victim of some abstract ploy.
-- event 2 - told to not meet because of the virus, while literally next to each other
then, when we finally started seeing each other (because i couldn't take it anymore and went there on my bike at night), she seemed to think the 'risk was lower' if he was only at my place during the weekends. at this point, the 'rona cases were at their lowest point here and he was about to graduate HS - so, as one does, i went to wait for him in front of the school to greet him when he'd be done with his last exam. we hung out for a little while with some of his classmates, a few of which i was also already buddies with. then, we headed for his dad's office, as he was gonna drive him back home or, as we planned, to my place. what did he say? basically that the mother doesn't agree with him visiting me today, because 'he might give me or my mom the virus if he has it from the school'. uuhh.. we had just walked there together, literally holding hands 'n stuff, and i'm going back to my mom now, so.. what? on the way home, apparently he told my bf 'if you hadn't argued, maybe you would have convinced her. just be nicer about it.' what in the name of power dynamics? we're talking 19yo going to see the girl he was literally next to. at this point i'm starting to suspect this isn't about the virus.
-- event 3 - thinking she has a right over where he places his body / not validating his discernment or our relationship
yeah, you guessed it - i was right. because she nowadays has a habit of not 'allowing' him to extend his stay at my place by a day, or making a huge deal out of it (no, there is no unrelated reason for him to be at home), not even mentioning the virus anymore, but rather because 'you always break your word, this isn't how long we talked about' (uh wtf are you, his owner?) and 'staying more does you harm, not good, trust me i know better'... excuse me? i am literally the best thing that has happened to him. and the typical 'why do you want to be there so often, don't you like it home at all?'. oh and even though he has argued countless times why this relationship and myself are very important to him, she still throws around stuff like 'so what's the big deal if you don't see each other for three weeks?' like she still thinks our relationship isn't serious.
-- event 4 - why don't you talk to me??
they have never had a good relationship, they have never spoken about 'stuff' in general, yet whenever she texts him 'how are you?' etc. while he's with me, she throws a big drama fit over how short his replies are -'why don't you give me details??'; 'why don't you talk to me about what you're doing??'. ofc, she twists each of his possible replies into passive-aggressive questions and weird conclusions. mild example after asking him for a pic of him to prove that we are not going out into the dangerous outdoors: 'why is your hair messy, don't you shower there?' it was messy because he had just gotten out of the shower, man.
-- event 5 - manipulation & wanting free respect
time to mention i've always been cool to her whenever we met and not once have i mentioned my despise for her trying to parent my adult relationship. the only time i've ever not been polite 'to' her was one time when they were 'arguing' (he was politely asking questions, she was yelling at him to basically obey) over the phone on whether he could stay here for another day, and i'd had enough of it even happening so i yelled at him from the other side of the room to 'just tell her to pick you up already for fuck's sake!'. i was crying, the phone convo had just been him going 'yep' over and over again for 15 minutes now and i just wanted to not date a child that gets punished, threatened and thrown around. she did end up picking him up shortly thereafter, but not before telling him 'i was gonna let you stay anyway, just wanted to talk more before' and that i disrespected her.
-- event 6 - random aunt slides in my DMs lmaooo
we interrupt this broadcast to mention that she has also always been nice to me face to face. always. he has always told me she says she doesn't dislike me and 'has nothing against our relationship'. so it didn't make any sense when i woke up from an evening nap to dozens of sporadic messages from apparently his aunt, her sister, who he never, ever talks to, but who claims she 'will not let an idiot like me partake in his life'.. in these messages, this woman i never knew existed called me an ugly, poor idiot, said i was 'taking advantage of a brilliant minor' (he is n i n e t e e n) because 'men my age don't want me', that she and her mom only know 'how much they struggled to save him when he was 2' (how is his surgery at 2yo relevant??), that 'this is my level so it's ok if i don't understand', that 'if i ever say anything bad to him or about his mother again she's gonna find me and make me see my level' - uhh that's illegal. and, oh yeah - that i'm just after his big penis.. why does she-- whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat. what. what? why. what.
oh, that's not even the best part! meanwhile, she sent my boyfriend some texts out of nowhere with pictures i took of an ex two years ago that can be found on my instagram (bruh, she dived), saying 'there's this [my name] girl, she messaged me out of nowhere, she says she's messing with this [bf's name] guy and that this [pictured] guy is actually her true love'. he asked her repeatedly for screenshots of this chat of me 'bothering her at this hour'. 'tell her to stop, i don't care about your relationship! why is this happening to me?' (it was 8pm and i was napping and he knew this). she kept ignoring the screenshot requests. when he went 'ok i'll just show this to mom, anyway', she started freaking out and saying 'oh great, now she's telling me she's smart and can hack my phone and make it look like i said things i didn't!'..... oh my.so yeah, when i woke up the first thing i did was show my bf what she'd sent me, and apparently his mom freaked out and didn't understand where she'd come up with all that -- is this not her sister? is she not the only way she might have had of even knowing who i am, let alone some wacky information based on which she drew the conclusion it was time for her to personally intervene to uh.. call me an ugly idiot and tell me i'm ruining his life? the funniest part about this might be when, after i replied to her days later with what was basically a four paragraph analysis on why she clearly doesn't think he's a genius at all and how ridiculous, embarrassing and partly illegal what she sent me is, her response was 'i'm sure [my bf] understands the maturity of my gesture.' b r u h
so far, i'd seen his mom's ridiculous arguing (or refusal to, stating a child must simply listen to her - the classics!), nonsensical wishes to control where he is while picturing he can just tell me 'can't be there this weekend, smth showed up' and it'll float (ofc he tells me the reason for everything), acting as if i'll kill them all with the virus ( at some point i had been outside my home like twice in the last 2 months) and apparently gossiping some god knows how horrible shit about me/us to her sister - who btw apparently has no history of acting out of order.
-- event 7 - "what? i didn't say that"
one weekend, they decided the family is taking a trip to some mountain spot. he did not want to go, because we had plans and he hates travelling with them. so he said nah, thanks. mom went all 'i wasn't asking, you will be joning'. at this point we were just like 'what are they gonna do? carry you? you'll just not go, fuck it lol'. she tried convincing, manipulating, threatening and then got to bargaining. unfortunately, he fell for: 'if you join us on this trip today, i promise i will never argue about you seeing OP during the weekend - and some weekdays - again'. he texted me he's gonna go because that sounds like a good bargain. he joked he should have gotten her written word on it. i didn't comment much on it, but advised him to not trust her. i didn't like that he was essentially doing her will again while in a period of trying to self-impose more, but i thought at least he would benefit from some fresh air. if i remember correctly, she complained about him staying too much at my place literally the next time, saying things such as 'no, i never said anything about the weekdays' and 'yeah but you didn't stay the number of days you said you would'..
-- event 8 - "you shouldn't need each other and you see her too much. it's bad for you. if you leave i'm kicking you out."
about a month ago, i had a depressive episode with a pretty shitty meltdown. i was at home and just didn't want to do anything or hear about the prospect of doing anything, was tired of trying to be productive all the time, i had some horrible self-hatred going on, yadda yadda. he was trying to be encouraging via text, cheer me up, he wasn't bad but i didn't care much for any of it and honestly i just wanted a hug. bf caught the hint and, while i went to try and sleep it off, he tried to talk his parents into taking him here cause i need him now etc. not only are they clueless as to why he should visit me if 'that's not gonna cure my depression' (yeah, cause if he's not necessary to my life, then why be there for me?), they are now lecturing him about how suicidal people should seek help and 'take some meds' and he can't help me. anyway, his dad is a little more understanding so eventually he said sure, let's go. so bf takes a shower, gets dressed and mother enters the chat, going nuts: 'you're not going anywhere what do you mean?? wasn't the weekend enough?? you see her too often and you don't get it but it's bad for you and i know better, you're not going. in the middle of the week? what do you mean i'm selfish, i'm doing this because you never keep your word. no it's not revenge wtf? i swear you're never seeing her again. if she's depressed she should take meds. you can help her from a distance, you have computers.' mind you this woman has apparently had depression too lol. after screaming back a little that she's insane for thinking i'm a harm to him, finally, instead of trying to argue more, he tells her 'look, i'm gonna leave, dad said he's taking me so i don't care what you think right now.' what card does she pull? 'if you leave you're never coming back'. dad intervened to combat that statement and she left to have a smoke, like she usually does. it's either that or straight up saying 'i'm not discussing this with you. i'm not listening to you right now.' so then my bf still can't leave, as he now has to sit through an admittedly pretty chill but still pointless conversation with his dad about how we are, if we're ok, why we sleep together on discord, why we don't 'just go to bed earlier if we can't sleep at all'. good talk, i guess.. on my time. somehow it ends there, because his dad also reached the conclusion it's 'not necessary' for my bf to come here that night so.. he didn't. oh, btw, did the virus show up anywhere in that talk? that's because it was clearly never the fuckin reason.
-- event 9 - our happy plans, all ruined
so, he's starting college in a bit. i work full-time. we both love the idea of moving in together - it would fix a lot of our issues and we already know it would work. initially, we thought we couldn't do it this year because he did not qualify for the equivalent of a scholarship in our country and did not want me to fully support him. however, he ended up suddenly getting accepted for the smallest scholarship and now we can make it work temporarily - until i also join college next year, thus gravely lower my income. the temporary part is not a problem for us. my mom would take me right back after it and we'd only have to wait another year or so until we could both find somewhat okay jobs after that anyway. now we can move in together for a while and try it out, it sounds like a dream come true. it just so happens his family owns a spare, fully functional apartment, in a convenient location for all our plans and that obviously we wouldn't have to pay rent for. so we give it a shot and he talks to them about it. 'lol nope you can't live in that apartment because you're not moving. if you wanna move, it's permanent, not temporary. what do you mean temporary? that's not a thing, it doesn't work that way. you're rushing. if you move out, never see us again' etc etc. i mean we sure expected that but it still took a really hard toll on me (and i think him as well, like.. to get away from them? bruh.) to see a wonderful plan that had all the chances to work were it not for them crumble down instantly. there is now no possibility we will move in together until he graduates or so, as he will not be able to guarantee he can support himself alone if we end up breaking up. the only, only reason is them. the only reason we can't do what would have worked perfectly for us, and the only reason i may break this up.
-- event 9 - literally stole his phone, dude
a few weeks ago, he was feeling sick, so before we went to bed she cut off his internet and spontaneously took his phone from him so he couldn't call me before bed anymore, cause 'that's harmful to your sleep and you need to rest properly'. yes, of course this is after he'd explained how good that's been for both of us. i almost had a panic attack not knowing where he went so suddenly, but suspected this might be the case. it helps both my anxiety and his sleeping issues tremendously that we do that each night, and both are entirely gone when we sleep physically close. she gave him his phone back 45 minutes later, after i called seven times in a row. god i wished she'd pick up so bad.
and bro, this one time she legit told him 'yeah, if i tell you to do something harmful to you, you should still respect that because i know best.'
---- now, for my take on it. at first, i really tried to get him to get along with them better, communicate better and so on. i strongly advocate taking an active role in bettering relationships wherever possible. i'm way past the 'rebellious' phase of life, man, but this relationship makes me feel like a struggling teenager. i love him the most but they do not respect him or us at all, so i no longer have any respect for them anymore, even though i really tried. i don't know how i can deal with them long-term, if we're basically a few months in and i already will not visit their home. if i see them any time soon, god forbid they go on even a vague tangent on parenting or on our relationship. i have a very small family, and i love getting along with that of my partner, feeling that 'dinner' vibe that i don't get at home (even though my mom is a very good parent and an actual friend) and so on.
we've talked about this each time - i say: since it's clear you can't argue with her, convince them, make them understand, stop trying that. it's long past time to impose your rights as an adult that you decide when and where to go, that she can't punish you anymore for 'disobeying' her irrational whims. he knows clearly by now that i'm not going to keep a relationship in which i must consider the irrational desires of a third party who should not be involved in our interaction unless we will it so. that in my eyes, sometimes he may as well really be a minor like his nutty aunt thought. i told him he's going to let her know what the boundaries are - not what they should be, not what she doesn't understand or where she's wrong, not what he wants her to let him do, but what she will, or i'm out. he seems to have done that, and after me almost breaking up with him quite coldly over the moving in event, we established that if one of these situations occur again, i won't stand for it anymore.
thanks for reading, and i hope this was entertaining to you! feel free to comment or ask for details on whichever part. :)
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2020.09.29 20:13 ThrowRA_confused929 Late 20's couple, confused, is it salvagable?

To give a bit of background, my girlfriend and I are both in our late 20's and had been dating for several years. We'd had our ups and downs for many reasons (sex life, finances, friends, depression, you name it) but I loved her dearly. Unfortunately I ended up chatting with random women online just to spice things up and make up for the lack of our sex life. I had no intentions of getting personal with any of them and it was just one-time things for instant gratification. I never met up with any of them and I never cheated in person, it was strictly cyber-cheating. But cheating and lying are still cheating and lying, I get that now.
When my girlfriend found out, she was devastated and hurt that I lied and cheated on her that way. I feel so bad about what I put her through. We were living together for years and after she found out, we went through a several (3+) weeks long extended breakup. We'd have good days and bad days, but in many ways we were acting more together than we had in a long time - slept together a lot, were close otherwise, spent all our free time together. Then abruptly about a week ago she packed up her car, told me she was leaving, and drove away a couple of states away to stay with relatives and said she'd probably never be back.
Since that, she's called me a few times and we'd had brief chats, but it would go from "hey honey/baby" to "leave me alone". I know she's terribly hurt by what I did, and I'm doing everything I can to improve myself and make sure I never do that kind of crap again, which includes going to talk therapy.
What I'm confused about is the hot/cold aspect of it. She'd want to sleep with me, we'd hug and kiss and cuddle after, then a few hours later she'd get angry again and we'd argue. We'd spend a great day together going out, and then it was more of her telling me she hated me. I don't know what to make of it. I know I shattered her trust and hurt her immensly in the process but I don't know what to do now.
Do I go no contact? Do I wait for her to reach out to me? Do I give her time alone to figure out what she wants? I want to save the relationship since she's someone I could honestly see myself having a future with. I admit that the whole situation is my fault since what I thought was me casually getting my rocks off, turned out to be equally devastating as if I'd actually slept with someone/had an affair.
Right now I'm confused, hurt, and filled with regret, but I have no idea what I can do to try to salvage it. Sitting by idly seems like the worst, and I don't want to try to play any mind games with her. This is a mea culpa situation, and I feel like it's up to me to fix it but I don't know how.
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2020.09.29 15:30 cowgurl12 Guy I've been seeing keeps switching from being an awkward shy guy to a f**kboy...why?

So a few months ago I [24F] matched with a guy [26M] on Bumble and we instantly hit it off over chat. We texted nonstop for a few days and he was eager to set up a date. Over chat, he seemed like a good conversationalist and very interested in getting to know me, asking a lot of questions.
However, on our date he seemed like a totally different person. He only said a few words at a time and his voice was quiet and often trailed off, and he kind of even seemed afraid to look directly at me. I am on the introverted side myself but I could tell that I was carrying the conversation. He also seemed kinda insecure and was asking about my previous relationships and how long they lasted, if I had gone on many Bumble dates before his because I was "cute so I probably got a lot of matches." Even though our conversation was borderline disastrous, I guess we were both horny and we ended up making out (?) at the end of the date, but I cut it short after about 20 min because I had to be somewhere later. After the date, I felt it was awkward but probably just due to us being nervous, so I was willing to give it another chance.
He texted me a few hours later saying "hey, had fun :) sorry if I was awkward lol" and I responded the next day saying "haha, you're good. I had fun as well" and then he just replied with ":)" However, when I asked if he wanted to hang out again he turned me down and said "Hey ___, it was nice meeting you but I'm not sure if I see this moving forward seriously. I'm sorry :/" and I was honestly kind of shocked because he had been the one to text me first after the date.
Fast forward a few weeks and we end up matching again, and he explains that he was actually looking for something casual (even though he previously had "looking for a relationship" on his profile which was now "don't know," lol) and he didn't think we would be compatible because I seemed more of the relationship type. I told him that I was actually more of a go with the flow type person and said I wouldn't mind going on another date.
Our second date was similar to our first one and he seemed anxious again (shaky voice/hands!) at the beginning but it got better, and I actually feel that we clicked relatively well. By the end we were cracking jokes and both seemed to be having fun. However, when we were making out again, when I asked if we could move over to his place which was close by since we were in a car, he seemed hesitant and gave some lame excuse that his roommates had people over and "next time" would be better. He texted me first again mentioning a funny thing from our date, but then he suddenly became unavailable/flaky whenever I mentioned hanging out again.
I kinda just ignored him for a week or so until he randomly texts me late at night, "how are things going over there?" - probably a booty call text which I don't respond to til the next day. We texted for a few days and somehow end up going on a third date. Same thing happens, except he shows up kinda late this time. He's a little nervous and quiet as we're talking but then making out in a car ends up being fun. But when I ask again if we could move somewhere more private (I don't have my own place), he says "it's kind of late, maybe next time." And when I ask him if he actually wants to have sex with me, he says that he definitely does, but it's just not the right time and we could do it that Saturday at his place. I just kept feeling confused because he said he wanted something casual, yet seemed hesitant when it came to having sex with me.
He then cancels the Saturday date over text, and I get kind of fed up with his flakiness so I say something like "hey, I've had fun but if you're not interested in continuing things, I'd prefer if you just tell me" and he said "I enjoy spending time with you but I am looking for something pretty casual" and I say "that's okay, I just don't want to do anything in a car anymore" and he tells me it won't happen again.
He then texts me on a holiday and just says "you free on Tuesday?" trying to set up a date at his place which just seemed super low-effort and f**k boy-ish, which just seemed weird to me because in person his personality just doesn't match up with it. When I finally go over to his place to have sex, he finally seems more confident/not shaky. We end up having sex, but it's a bit awkward and slightly anticlimactic considering we had good chemistry leading up to it. I went to the bathroom after sex and he keeps asking "are you okay?" even though I'm fine, but just indifferent. I get up to leave because it's casual, and I don't love the idea of hanging out for too long after. But he stops me and says he wants to finish the episode, so we cuddle for about half an hour.
I don't hear from him again for a few days after sex, so I just tell him that I had fun and to thank him for having me over, and he just says he had fun as well. A week later, I ask if he wants to hang out again and then he says "it sorta seemed like you didn't enjoy the sex :(" and then we had this whole conversation with basically me reassuring him and then he said, "ok, I feel better now." However he's extremely noncommital and just vaguely says "I'd like to do it again sometime." I ask him to hang out one more time a week later, he says he's busy, so I just leave him be.
I don't hear from him for another month when he randomly booty texts again. He is interested in hanging out again, but at this point I'm not sure if I'm interested in ever seeing him again, so I tell him I'm sick and we could maybe hang out another time. A few weeks later on a whim, I'm in the area so I text if he's free and he says he is. He invites me to his place again and says I can stay over if I'd like. I decline and say I have work the next morning but thank him for the offer. He also asks if I want him to get any food for us, and I say that it's fine. Mostly because after being ghosted, hanging out more than necessary with this guy is probably a lost cause at this point.
Right before, he is late again, but I assume he is just playing with me at this point. When I meet him, he just seems solemn, as if we hadn't gone on several dates and had some sort of history. He seems more impatient this time with the sex and is borderline pushy with me, however we do end up going for two rounds so it seems he enjoyed it more than the second time. After we finish, he basically kicks me out, with no mention of his previous offer of having me stay over and no offer of food/drinks. He tells me to text me when I get home and I do, and he says "Great! had fun :)," but when I text him later that week, he says he's busy, and I haven't heard from him since.
What happened? Why did he keep flip-flopping between shy but interested in me vs. acting like a total f**kboy? Was it something I did that made him act like this?
Tl;dr: guy keeps going from being shy/nervous and interested in me, especially when we spend time together, to acting like a complete fuckboy over text, being totally unavailable and going off the map. Is he just a shy guy putting on a persona or is he literally just a fuckboy?
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2020.09.29 08:35 nycgame Everything you need to know about the upcoming launch of PS5

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2020.09.29 04:19 lucasKujo A More updated version of my book

Kody Snarp woke up with jump as his mother was thumping on the door, the scare made him fall off his bed with a loud thud. “I’m Up I’m Up” Kody growled, He pulled on brown pants, A white button up and a brown blazer. He pulled on black socks and matt black shoes, He stood up and grabbed his Pack of the ground. He stretched and yawned, He didn’t particularly like the school outfit, but it looked good with his blond hair and muscular build. He stepped into the hallway a grabbed a piece of toast and 15 pounds off the counter, he shoved the toast in his mouth and the 15 pounds into his pocket before leaving. He walked 2K’s to his school and sat with his friends. He was generally an all rounder and his IQ was 185 and he was only 11. School went fast and the only thing he really enjoyed was art, His friends asked if he wanted to go to the shopping centre with them. He texted his mom if he could go but got no response. He assumed it would be all right and went along. His 9-year-old brother tagged along, and Kody didn’t like the idea of this but his mates all ways had a laugh. He spent the 15 pounds he’d takes from his mum on a hamburger at MacDonald’s, it was getting late, so he walked his brother home to their house. Kody’s family was wealthy but Kody had to work for his own money and he didn’t have a job, but he usually could just take a few pounds from his mothers bag while she wasn’t looking. Then his mobile rang, he looked down and saw his dad’s number. This put a lump in his throat. He could still remember when he left when Kody was 4, they called once a year, if even. He answered the phone “Yo” Kody said slyly “Look Kody I don’t have much time, don’t go home. I cant contact you again. I think there coming for me. I love yo-“ as he said these last words there was a thud noise and then the phone said “the number has been disconnected or dose not exist” Kody flipped his phone shut angrily, how could he play such a dirty trick, His father left a bad taste in his mouth. He could see the house now and saw the door open. Must be expecting us He thought. He opened the door more and saw a horrific sight, His mother was slumped over the kitchen table with stab wounds to her chest. He called out for his sister lily and was scared when there was no response. He searched the whole house and couldn’t find her. Shit, Shit shit shit.
 * 
Kody Snarp woke up with a jump. He had been staying at Nebraska House after his mother murdered, luckily, he was out with friends when it happened. He Flipped the covers off and realized this was not Nebraska House, the reason he did not go live with his father was because he'd run off when Kody was 2 years of age. He stood up and came to the realization that he was in the nude, fortunately there were some clothes on the end of his bed. He got dressed and stood in front of the big mirror in the room, he was stocky for a 11-year-old and had blond hair with green eyes. He wore an orange shirt with a baby and a globe, with camouflage pants and boots. After an inspection of the room he went to exit the room but there was a nocking at the door, "are you decent" the voice asked before Kody Could give the voice a reply, he opened the door. He saw James Adams (or as he knew him James choke) walked in, James was wearing the same outfit but with a navy coloured shirt. Kody didn’t know this, but James was on a recruitment mission, James Liked Kody and if he wasn’t a Cherub, they’d be friends. "I need to take you to see mac" James Grinned. The grin made Kody a bit more relaxed "James you’re a mate and all, but what is this. Jokes over you got me" Kody Said managing a small smile "Look Kody I’m going to get in trouble if you don’t come with me" James tone changed as he said this. "Oh..Ok but you've got to promise I’ll be safe" Kody said Kody followed James down the hall to an elevator. Then followed him an office, there was a man standing there. He held his hand out for Kody to shake, Kody sat down in a chair and the man sat on the other side of a desk. "James, can you wait by the door please" James walked out and closed the door behind him. "I'm Dr Terrance McAfferty, but everyone calls me mac, where you are is a secret facility called Cherub, were we train kids to be spies and to be blunt we'd like you to join"Kody's mouth practically hit the floor. "p..Pardon?" "usually we make students to go through some tests to join but because of your high IQ and build we'll train you for basic training, it’s a matter of if you want to join or not" It took a minute for Kody to process the offer, he didn’t have a reason to not trust mac, but he didn’t have a reason to believe him. "I believe you have a younger brother; he'll get the same offer of course" Kody went red, he had not even thought of his brother since he got here. "why? “Kody asked mac looked a bit baffled by this remark "why what?" "Why should we join this..this thing" Kody said, he had more anger in his voice then he should of. "we'll you and your brother will get the best schooling you can, you'll be fit. If you don’t you'll be sent back to Nebraska House and will be adopted""Can I think about it?" "of course, I’ll get James to take you to the cafeteria for some breakfast. Also, Only James has the authority to talk to you, so don’t try talking to other CHERUBS" as mac said this last part his tone became firmer "James, can you take Kody here to the cafeteria for some breakfast then show him around campus” Mac Yelled this so James could here "Mac, what about my lessons" James asked as he walked in "when Kody has made his mind up bring him here, then go back to lessons" Kody and James left macs office in unison. Once they had reached the cafeteria Kody grabbed a tray and filled it with eggs, bacon a slice of toast and a hash brown. They sat a one of the tables, Kody looked at James "you want some mate?" Kody offered "no thanks, already ate" "is its true James? do they train kids as spies" A grin cracked across James face, "this place is the best Kody, you’re a mate and to be honest this is the best place you can ever be" Kody scoffed his breakfast and then James showed him around campus, after they went to James room and played on his PlayStation then James asked a question out of the blue "what soccer team do you go for" Kody reply was almost instant "Arsenal, what am i scum? Arsenal is the only good team" James Cracked up laughing, they played FIFA for 30 minutes before Kody stood up and stretched. "I think I’ve made my decision “Kody said. James led Kody back down to macs office. "Ahhhh, made a choice, have we? James could you excuse us "Mac grinned "so, Kody my boy what will it be" "I think I’d like to join Cherub “Kody smiled "good, the next basic training is in 2 months, so we need to train you by then"
 * 
Kody was being escorted to the basic training compound, it was a big building, like a Gym with wire fence around it. He stood by a bed he was allocated to. next to him was a girl called Kati, she had short hair and stood in the same position as Kody at the end of her bed. a big man called Mr Large stood in the centre of the room, he paired everyone and told them that they would be training partners for the rest of training. Kody was pared with Kati, the first day was brutal. they carried 5kg weights in a bag around an obstacle course while the instructors hurled abuse at them. Kody had never been more tiered in his life, He wanted to slide onto the bed and fall asleep but mr Large made them have dinner and a freezing shower. Now he was Cold and freezing, he was woken up in the middle of the night by Mr Large shaking him violently. it was a scare and he had to hold back a scream, He realized he was outside but still in the basic training compound. he was there with Kati and some other kids. "LINE UP" Mr larges voice echoed, the kids stumbled in the dark and lined up. Then they were knocked down by a powerful blast of Freezing water. "now that your awake, I'm gonna make you run. until you puke" As he said this, he threw the weighted bags at them. They were heavier than usual"run the course until sun rise, then take a five-minute break then continue running, Sunbreak is in 2 hours. If I catch you not running so help me god" the kids started running while the training instructors went inside "this is so jammy" Kati whispered "true, anyway we can still have some fun" He said "Race ya till dawn" As Kati said this, she broke out into a sprint around the obstacle course, Kody went full sprint just to catch up with her but found that this was not going to work. He was within 5 feet of her but ran out of breath, he started to slow down to a jog while she ran out of sight. while he was jogging, he tripped over his own feat and went face first into a muddy pit, he was getting up when Mr Large Held out a helping hand. As Kody took the hand, Mr Large Yanked him up and tripped him over back into the mud, Kody's mouth was open from fear and was filled with mud. "ARE YOU SLACKING GARTNER" Mr Large barked, Kody knew better then to give back chat to mr large. He wiped the mud from his eye's and saw the sun raising from the main building in the distance. " EVERYONE INSIDE" Mr Large snapped, as Kody was walking inside Mr Large yanked him by the collar back, "keep running" Mr large said with a sinister snarl, Kody was Muddy and tiered, he felt like his legs would collapse from underneath him, but he knew it would be bad if he showed Mr Large weakness. Slowly he walked towards the obstacle course, after he wiped the sweat from his eyes, he set of at a pace in between walking and jogging. He slowed down to a walk to catch his breath. Mr Large made him run for 30 minutes before letting him shower and have breakfast. Kody was marched outside alongside his peers, rain was showering down and made everything slippery. After an hour of combat training Kody was bruised and battered, blood ran down his nose where a fist came too close. Kody slid onto his bunk, he was violently shivering from the cold but the fatigue on his body overcame the coldness and he drifted into sleep. Kody on got an hour of sleep before he was woke up, he saw a group of kids being marched outside by Mr large. Shortly after he herd the powerful blast from the hose hit the wall, "you awake" Kati whispered "ye, Mr large is a horrid bloke" Kody replied "he's a snake” "shhhhh, an instructor will hear you" "there all outside" she said at her normal voice level "I’m not willing to run that risk" As Kody said this, he realized it came off as rude "I’m sorry, that came off as rude, I’m just really tiered" Kati did not reply so Kody rolled over and went back to sleep. After that the rest of basic training was a blur of pain, shouting and exhaustion.
 * 
Kody found himself at the second to last checkpoint, 3 days earlier he was dropped on a Desert island with his training partner Kati. he looked at the map to the last checkpoint, it was all in Japanese which was the language he had been learning "it looks like we need to cross these sand dunes, if we set off at first light, we can reach there as the sky darkens" Kody said, his partner nodded. Kody took his bag off his shoulders. it made a thud on the wooden floor; He lied down and rested his head up against the pack. "what are you doing, it’s still light out" Kati said, with some acidity to her words "we need to pack some things like water and other stuff before we leave tomorrow" Kody replied. He rolled onto his stomach and set an alarm for 3 in the morning on his watch, he closed his eyes and drifted to sleep. He woke up with a jump, he was sweating bad and Kati was tapping him to wake him. Kody Stripped his shirt off and stood up "gotta take a piss really quick" he said "NO, I can hear dogs out there" "Dogs? on a desert island" "I know what I heard" "I’ll check it out" he said, as he stood up, he felt for the hunting Knife in its sheath, before stepping outside. even though it was night-time outside it was warm "HELLO" he yelled out into the darkness, but there was no reply, he unzipped his pants to start peeing when he saw eye's glowing. There was a low growl, Kody Zipped his pants up and drew his knife. "Kati" He yelled desperately "ye" "Your right, there’s some sort of mut out here" as he said this the dog pounced at him, Kody instinctively ducked down to dodge and raised the knife. It hit the wolf in the stomach, Kody stood up and cut its windpipe. Kody didn’t feel much remorse, basically none for the animal, so he walked a few more steps before taking a piss. he walked back inside and ran his hand from his forehead and through his hair, his hand was slick and as he looked down there was blood on them. After washing he lied down, he was tiered and looked at his watch, it was 2:30am "i think we should get ready and leave soon" Kody said, much to his surprise Kati was already packing. he picked his backpack up and they set off at 3am, while walking Kody tripped down a sand dune and twisted his ankle. They reached the last check point just before sundown, the other Cherub's were there already waiting. there were tall trees and at the bottom of each trunk was climbing equipment. "All right Maggots, Each of you scum are to climb one tree, at the top of each tree are you're grey shirts, get them and welcome to Cherub" Kody limped up to the bottom of the tree, he didn’t know if he could do this, he was tiered and his ankle was still in pain. he muscled through and started to climb. He was halfway up the tree when he realized his peers were already descending. After reaching the top he used the trunk like a fire hose and slid down, he landed on his twisted ankle. He muffled a groan, but training instructor Mr Peaks heard it. he bent down to look at the foot and recoiled. This made Kody scared as he looked down, he saw that he landed on his foot bad, really bad, it was bending sideways and was a clear break. Mr peaks signalled for the emergency helicopter. Kody hobbled towards the helicopter and was flown to an RAF base. he clenched the t-shirt to his chest knowing he had done it; he had passed basic training.
2 problems
Kody felt groggy as he sat up in his bed, there was a knocking at the door, so Kody slid on his pants and Grey CHERUB shirt. After another Knock Kody opened the door and was surprised to see James Adams Dressed sharply in a navy Cherub t-shirt, army pants and boots. “congrats on passing basic’s mate” Holding his hand for Kody to shake “too easy” He said grinning “body hurts in eight different places though” “nice, I want you to meet some of the lads ye? Were gonna go bowling after tea, you can bring your girlfriend Kati”, Kody hadn’t thought of her like that and went red at the though. “ye, I’ll see you there, but don’t go round callin her my girlfriend, she’ll kick my arses” James Cracked up at this and left back down the hall. Kody stomach growled at him, he hadn’t realized how hungry he had been; he looked at his watch and saw it was 11am. He didn’t feel like walking down to the cafeteria, so he opened his mini fridge, inside was a banana, some microwave meals and two apples. He went to bend down to pick up the banana, but his muscles were tense and ached. He reached for an apple and bit into it, the cold hard skin made a crunch and the sweet juice trickled down his chin. He didn’t have lessons today because he got back from recovering his injury during basic training, he flicked on his tv but there was nothing good on. After finishing his apple, he threw the core into his trash can. He fell back onto his bed and stared at the roof, he let his mind drift until he thought about his brother. He started to worry but Mac said he would tell him when he was here, He stood up and put his Nike trainers on and set off for the running track. As he was walking through the corridor a door swung open and almost knocked his face, in a daze he walked back a bit before seeing one of his training Buddies from basic, Jayden was their name, “Hey mate, good job on passing” Kody grinned as he set off again, he jumped two stairs at a time until he reached the ground floor. He stepped outside and is trainer sunk into a mud puddle, he set off for the running track; although he was already tiered by the time he got there. He didn’t have an iPod so he couldn’t listen to music while he was running, he thought about what he was going to say to James friends when he meets them at bowling. He didn’t want to sound like a ponce, but he didn’t want to sound to desperate, he shrugged and guessed he would go with the flow. After 30 minutes of running he was starting to run out of breath and had sweat patches under his armpits, his throat was dry, but he left his drink bottle in his room. He walked to the main building and waited for the elevator; he would usually take the stairs, but he was too tiered. He reached his room and searched for his water bottle; it was hiding under his bed. He grabbed it and squirted a high jet of water into his mouth, he took a hot shower and dried off; then sat on his bed waiting on his bed bord out of his mind waiting for bowling.
 * 
It was now 6pm, Kody was led to the bowling alley by James who had Kati in tow. James introduced him to his friends Kerry Chang, Bruce Norris, Kyle Blueman and some other mates of his. Kody shook all their hands and said hi, Bruce Norris needed no introduction; he was the karate champion on campus and was better not messed with. Kati sat down while Kody took his turn, He smashed the ball down the alley way and clattered over 7 pins, then on his second try got a spare. As he went to sit down next to Kati, Bruce had beaten him to the punch and looked as if he was flirting with her. He felt mad because it looked like she was enjoying it, but he knew he could only be mad at himself. He slumped down next to James and Kerry who seemed to be enjoying themselves, he got up from his seat to take his turn. As he went to through the ball hit got his thumb caught, it pulled him forward until coming loose and rolled into the gutter. He clenched his thumb; it was sore but not too bad. What heart even more was that when he looked over, he saw Bruce moving into Kiss Kati, there was a lump in his throat as he sat down next James and Kerry. “Nice bowl mate” James cracked up, Kerry whacked his chest “Lay off” she said, James looked over and saw Kody was red and was welling up. “Uh.. you ok mate?” James soothed and rubbed Kody’s back; James felt weird because he didn’t know what to do “Ill be right, just remembered something sad” He chocked back tears to say this, “I’m gonna grab a coke” he stood up and walked to the concession stand and asked for a bottle of coke. He sculled it and used the bathroom, he walked over to James ad sat down. His face was still a bit red, but he pushed through it. After bowling James went to an off-licence store and got a 12 pack of beer. James, Kody, Kerry, Bruce, Kati and Kody went up to James’s room. Kody was only 11 and had never had alcohol before but by the end of the night he found himself stumbling drunkly across the hall to his own room where he toppled over the bed and onto the floor.
Kody woke up to the ringtone on his phone, His hurt and the ringing phone sounded like drummer boys in his ear. He answered the ringing phone and was surprised by a voice he hadn’t heard before, tho voice asked Kody to go to the mission preparation building. He took a shower and got dressed in a freshly washed Cherub before setting off to eat breakfast with his friends. He set off for the mission preparation building, he was halfway there when it started raining. By the time he got there he was drenched, there was a man standing there ready to greet him with his hand out. Kody politely shook the man’s hand. “Names Ewart Asker” “Kody Gartner’ He replied. “I have a mission for you, it looks like its going to be easy” Ewart Explained as he walked to his office. Kody was hit by the warmth and a stench he couldn’t describe. His office was messy, and paper was everywhere “So, lets go over the briefing” Ewart smiled
3 The mission
CLASSIFIED MISSION BRIEFING FOR KODY GARTNER AND JAMES ADAMS DO NOT COPY OR MAKE NOTES THIS BRIEFING IS TAGGED WITH A RADIO FREQUENCY DO NOT REMOVE FROM MISSION PREP BUILDING
Mission background
Aberfoyle park or ‘the hub’ has always been joked about having local adults and even Kids from the local high school partake of the ingestion of drugs and underaged drinking, but lately these claims have been more and more true. Over the past 3 months there has been a drastic incline in police arrests relating to drug busts in Aberfoyle park and around the area. ASIS has been working the case for nearly a month now and have made very weak ties from local dealers to higher ups, and ASIS know suspects who the leader of the operation is. His name is Levi Shavess, he is married and has 1 child. Levis son Thomas Shavess is confirmed to work errands for his father, these errands can range from getting coffee to doing small deals for him. Levi
Levi Shavess is currently 35, his wife Lois and his son Thomas. Levi was born in 1669 in USA, New York, When Levi was very young his parents sent him to live with his grandparents. He is currently suspected to own one of the biggest drug rings in the country. He currently lives in Aberfoyle park and this is where we think his base of operations are. ASIS has confirmed that he owns small businesses inside the shopping centre which Is suspected to be used for laundering money.
Thomas Shavess
Thomas Shavess is the only child of the Shavess family. He is 14 years old in2 weeks, ASIS has been surveying him and have unearthed no information that the boys might work for his father. He attends Aberfoyle park High School and is in year 9. He is a bright child and is in their ignite program, ASIS has figured out that he stays in a small friend group and is shy about meeting new kids.
CHERUBS role
ASIOS already has an ASIS agent and has requested a second agent. Preferably young enough to get involved with Levi’s son. the agent will be asked to infiltrate Aberfoyle Park High School or as the locals call it THE HUB. The agent will get close with Thomas and try to uncover Levi’s Schemes. A second objective is to find and locate any documents that my unearth any other secrets.
THIS MISSION HAS BEEN CLASSED AS A MEDIUM RISK BY THE ETHICS COMMUNITY Agents may be exposed to class A Drugs, remember that any intake of a Class A drug will result in Expulsion from CHERUB. Also remember that the agent’s do not have to accept this mission and can pull out at any time
4 Down Under
Kody put down the briefing with a big ear to ear grin. This was his first mission in hi CHERUB career and it sounded juicy. Ewart slouched back in his chair with his feet up on his desk. “So, do you need time to think or what?” Ewart huffed as if he had better things to do, which he probably did “Yes, pleease sir, going down under should be fun” Kody beamed, practically bouncing in his seat “Call me Ewart, sir makes me fee old” Ewart laughed Kody was told he could leave so he stood up and headed back to the main building to catch lunch with his friends. As he sat down at the regular table, he noticed James wasn’t there “Where’s James?” He asked this to no one in particular “At a mission briefing, he late by the looks of it” Kerry answered, now that Kody remembered he did see James name on his mission briefing. This made him even more excited, after scoffing lunch he went to catch up with James. He didn’t know what to do or when to pack or what time he was leaving “Hey, where are you going” James asked “I was gonna ask you some questions then go to lessons” Kody replied “Oh, didn’t Ewart tell you that were leaving tonight, go pack and meet at the front gates in 10” Kody felt stupid for not asking Ewart a simple question, he Started jogging and when he got back to the main building It started raining cats and dogs. After packing he used the bathroom and filled his water bottle up. He set off down the stairs when he ran into Bruce Noris, he liked Bruce but found it awkward with him dating his crush. He ignored his feelings and continued down the steps, He reached the van were James, Ewart and someone he had not met. James was holding a baby as well, this made Kody even more confused. “Hello, my names Zara asker, you’ve already met my Husband. This is my son Joshua” The woman said “Kody gartner” Kody smiled as they all loaded into the van. The floor was carpeted and soft, Kody strapped in and still had a grin on his face as the Van set off for the airport. Kody was sandwiched in between James and a baby seat holding Joshua. Joshua slept most of the way but threw a fit when his mother tried to remove him from the seat, after waiting at the airport for what felt like an eternity they were on the plane. The seats were stiff and hurt Kodys back, James brought a PSP and he took turns playing games. He Leaned his chair back as far as he could without disrupting the person behind him and shut his eye, He sprang up when he felt a sharp crack on his forehead. It was James who had a sour look on his face “Mind moving sleeping beauty, I need to take a piss” As James said this sourly Kody unbuckled his seat belt and slid into the hallway, After James was done and came back Kody buckled his seatbelt and leaned back. He grabbed a pair of headphones and flicked the tv on that was attached to the seat in front of him, He browsed the movies for a bit until picking the Incredibles. He made it halfway through before nodding off again, this time he was woken up by his own urge to pee. He stood up and stretched before walking to the airplane toilet, It wasn’t too bad and as he opened the door he almost hit a flight attendant. He slumped in his seat and didn’t want to go back to sleep, so he chatted with James about everything from what it was like going on missions to their favourite Arsenal player was. James was showing some signs of nodding off and Kody did the same, they slept the rest of the way there. After a 30 hour flight Kody’s back was stiff and he had trouble keeping his yes open despite getting more than six hours of sleep. It was 11 pm by the time they got through customs and were on the road, They were In a spacious Toyota and Kody had more than enough room. He felt his phone vibrate and flipped it open, he had gotten a text from an unknown number and all it said was hi Hey, do I know you? Ye, I’m Gabriel from bowling. Remember? Oh ye. Wassup Nothing much HBU I’m good good Sorry for the surprise, I scabbed your number off Kerry Oh nice, well it’s a pleasant surprise After that he said good bye and flipped the phone shut before tucking it into his back pocket. The drive lasted 45 minuets before that arrived at there new house in Aberfoyle park, It was one story but still big with a Kitchen, 2 bathrooms, A living room and 4 bedrooms. The Living room had a big tv and 3 couches, He got his bags from the car and carried them into what looked like his room. He dropped them down and looked around at his room. It had white paint on the walls and lush carpet, there was a single bed in the middle of the room and cupboards next to it on either side. There were BMX bikes out back and a in ground pool. It was a Sunday night and Kody had school then next day so he sat down and lost track of time messaging Gabriel, it turned 10:30 when Zara came in and told him to go to sleep.
Kody woke up wet, he had a bit of a scare then realised that it was sweat. It was 30 degrees out side and the prospect of a whole day out there scared him, he got up and got dressed in a brownish shirt with the logo on the chest and black shorts and shoes. He walked out and saw Zara had cooked bacon and eggs and packed their lunch. After scoffing breakfast he set off for school, the ride took five minuets
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2020.09.28 20:40 maybematdamon 33 [M4F] Cullowhee/ Sylva/ Asheville NC - Lets discuss the psychology of modern dating or the evolutionary benefits of mental illness

Hello Reddit ladies! Zack here. I'm a 33 year old art major, in my junior year, attending Western Carolina University. I identify as a hedonist, Humanist, atheist, and artist. Concerning my prompt above, I have a few psychology classes under my belt, but most of my education in the field is from browsing the internet and reading extensively.
I have bipolar disorder and ADHD, so I am curious about the evolutionary purposes of mental illnesses. For example, I think ADD/ADHD was originally a positive trait for primitive humans, as enhanced senses and an inability to block out external stimuli probably caused primitive humans with ADD/ADHD to sense and avoid danger more successfully than humans without ADD/ADHD. Fast forward to today, and ADD/ADHD is seen as a downside, when I believe it's actually an ancient strength from our ancestors. Why else would this mental illness have gone on for thousands of years in our gene pools? I have other hypothesis for other mental illnesses, but that's for us to discuss together, yeah?
I recently gave up trying to find a local woman to spend my time with. Either the conversation dissipates over a short time, or they turn into a ghost and disappear when things seem to be going well. With my bad luck on dating apps (I get few matches, and most matches don't respond) and my experiences on Reddit, I spent a lot of time over the last few weeks contemplating the psychology of modern dating and what the effects of the internet and online dating has had on dating and relationships from a psychological perspective. So here are my thoughts:
TL;DR Online dating and the internet has ruined dating.
I'll elaborate on this statement. Online dating and the internet has caused us to get addicted to the dopamine rush of getting matches or messages. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter that gives us the happy feeling, and we've become addicted to it. Why stay around with one person when you can get instant gratification from posting an r4r or opening up our dating app and swiping or reading an incoming message? Our brains haven't evolved to deal with intense and instant communication, and we're suffering the consequences of it.
Now you might be thinking, "Hey Zack, you have a lot of r4r posts, aren't you a hypocrite?" Well my answer to that would be that I HAVE met a few people who have become friends, and we're still talking on a daily or semi-daily basis. But that's not really what I'm looking for in the long term, as I'm looking for romance eventually. It's great to make friends, and I won't say no to a new friendship. I think the best romantic or sexual relationships start with a friendship first anyway.
I admit to being ethically non-monogamous because in today's dating climate, who isn't talking to more than one person at a time? I know women get flooded with messages and matches on dating apps and Reddit (I've had my friends show me their inboxes, don't deny this lol). I'm just honest about how I play the game. I'll commit to one woman if one woman decides she wants me exclusively. Until then, I'm going to casually date and be honest about it.
So what I'm looking for tonight and the rest of the week are women who have an educational background or interest in psychology to further discuss the topics above. I wouldn't mind if eventual conversations get romantic or kinky in nature, but for now, I want stimulating conversation. So if you're reading this and have comments, want to have a casual debate, or just want to get to know me, message me or chat. I promise I'll respond to everyone who messages, and I won't ghost you either. :)
If I don't hear from you, good luck finding what you're looking for! Have a great night.
-Zack
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